Alberoni Theory of falling in Love

In his socio-psychological theory Francesco Alberoni says that falling in love is a process of the matching nature as religious or political conversion. People fall in love when they are ready to change, or to begin a new life. In accordance with Alberoni, falling in love is a rapid process of destructuration-reorganization called the budding state. In the nascent state, the human being becomes capable of merging with another person and creating a new collectivity with an extremely high degree of solidarity. Hence the meaning: falling in love is the nascent state of a collective movement shaped of two people only.

To understand if someone is really in love, the individual must be put to truth tests and, in order to realize if he or she is loved in return, the beloved is also put to reciprocal tests. The glowing procedure of the nascent state through these tests gives way to sureness and produces a stable love relationship. As said by Alberoni, the phenomenology of falling in love is the alike for young people and adults, for men and women and for homosexuals and heterosexuals: this is for the reason that the structure of the nascent state is for all time the same.